Cumberland Hotel asked bride-to-be to breastfeed her baby in the bathroom


A hotel in England has made the headlines for asking a mother and her 13-week-old baby boy to breastfeed in the bathroom. According to the Telegraph, Emily Ellis and her fiancé, Dan Smith went to pay the balance for their wedding reception at the Cumberland Hotel in Bournemouth, Dorset, when her baby needed to nurse. She asked if it was okay to breastfeed in the restaurant. Makes sense, right? Everyone else is eating. But no. The hotel receptionist said it was not appropriate and told her she could feed her child in the restroom.

A spokesperson for the Cumberland Hotel has since tried to apologize, blaming the incident on a “misunderstanding,” but the mother is taking her money elsewhere.

Monica Beyer chimed in her thoughts on She Knows. “I don’t blame Ellis for being upset. I know this establishment likely doesn’t have a habit of discriminating against breastfeeding mothers, and I also know that one crappy employee can really drag a business down, but this is exactly the sort of thing new employees should be trained on right away. A single breastfeeding discrimination incident is a PR nightmare that can damage the image of a business.”

I agree. Time and time again, these incidents keep on happening and businesses keep having to apologize. Let’s get a little training before they happen, right?

How does this incident make you feel? Would you have fired that hotel as well or would you have given them a second chance?

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Tilly’s apologizes after horrific breastfeeding harassment incident in their Florida store

Breastfeeding incident: The store manager of the Tilly’s in Orlando, Florida harassed a mom and child, tried to kick them out, and called security on her for merely breastfeeding in the store. This is her story:


Florida has had a law in place since 1993 that allows a mother to breastfeed in any public or private location. (HB 231) It’s so sad that people can be ignorant of laws that have been in place for over 20 years, that they compare breastfeeding to defecating or urinating. It’s just a child being loved and having their basic human needs met. It’s just a mother doing what’s normal and natural.

After I shared the news and called you wonderful readers to action, Tilly’s responded to me regarding the incident.


In case you can’t read it, Tilly’s said, “We want to acknowledge that we have received your feedback regarding the breast feeding incident in one of our stores. We have been in direct contact to resolve this issue with the family involved and are also taking appropriate action with the store employees in this location. We sincerely apologize for the family’s experience and want to affirm to all that we are very supportive of all mothers, fathers, and their families.”

How can you help?

I commend Tilly’s for apologizing and trying to make amends. Can they take it a step further and place a “breastfeeding is welcome here” sticker in their window and/or donate to the local breastfeeding coalition, perhaps Florida Breastfeeding Coalition IncBarnes & Noble placed stickers in all of their US stores after an incident last year and Stouthaus Coffee in Austin, Texas made the most sincere apology ever last week. Tilly’s could certainly learn a little bit from those companies.

Respectfully let the offending location, Tilly’s corporate, and Premium Outlets know how this incident made you feel, how you feel about Tilly’s corporate’s apology, and how a sticker and a donation would be ever better to help families across the country. Ask Premium Outlets to inform all of their stores of the incident and ask that everyone follow the law. It’s a good time to inform or remind all employees.

Offending location:
Tilly’s – Orlando International Premium Outlets, 4967 International Drive, Orlando, FL 32819
(407) 903-0584

Tilly’s Corporate Office Headquarters, 10 Whatney, Irvine, CA 92618 USA
Corporate Phone Number: 1-949-609-5599
Customer Service Number: 1-866-484-5597
Tweet @tillys
Write on their Facebook page

Outlet mall:
Send them a message on their website.
Tweet @OrlandoIntPO
Write on their Facebook page wall

How does this incident and apology make you feel? How would you have reacted if someone treated you that way?

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“Call Me Maybe” Breastfeeding Parody

Have you seen the student created breastfeeding video parody of “Call me maybe”? Check it out!

BaBE Video from corinne dunphy on Vimeo.

“Building a Breastfeeding Environment – Normalizing breastfeeding in the Antigonish, Guysborough and Strait Areas.
Created with BaBE and the students of St.F.X”

My thoughts

I wish they’d used real breastfeeding babies in this music video but still, they’re on the right track! Good for them, creating this and supporting breastfeeding.

What did you think? Is the song stuck in your head, too?

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Activists: Sign this petition against mandatory vaccinations

No matter where you stand on vaccinations, if you’re pro-choice, it’s not too late to sign and share this petition. Over 100K people think mandating vaccinations, taking away parental rights is not acceptable.



No human being should be FORCED to be vaccinated against their will and/or personal/religious beliefs. I petition against making vaccinations of any kind mandatory. This includes forcing children to be vaccinated to attend public schools, activities, and daycare centers. This also includes adults working in the public or private sector.”

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Breastfeeding is acceptable at Dunkin’ Donuts, and everywhere else

This tweet came across my feed the other day and I felt compelled to share it because this type of discrimination on social media happens every day.

In case you cannot read it, it says, “Uhm I’m pretty sure that Dunkin Donuts isn’t the best place to be breastfeeding your child..Just saying.”

First off, that child was having the healthiest thing in that store. Secondly, why wouldn’t a donut or coffee shop be the place to feed and care for a child? Anywhere a mother happens to be is the right place to meet her child’s needs. I know that my child, now 13 months old, asks for the comfort and nourishment breastfeeding provides without thinking about where he is. And each of my girls asked to breastfeed while we were out and about as well. They don’t nurse only at home, behind closed doors. Who doesn’t have a sip of water, a snack, or a meal while out of the house?

The fact that people like Cori spend the time it takes to type up anything like this tweet against a mother meeting her child’s needs calls to a major issue with our society. There are larger at play here than just one person having a problem with breastfeeding. It’s obvious that culture’s acceptance of women, their bodies, and children in the public sphere is damaged. People like Cori needed to see breastfeeding as normal when they were small children. They needed to be breastfed themselves, have had conversations about it with their mother, teachers, people they respect. They don’t read about how the Pope supports breastfeeding in public or know the law.

Pennsylvania law states mothers may “breastfeed in public without penalty. Breastfeeding may not be considered a nuisance, obscenity or indecent exposure under this law.” (35 § 636.1 et seq. 2007 - SB 34)

Teaching everyone to value and respect women starts at birth and continues for a lifetime. It’s not too late to start shifting damaged paradigms though. The more the public rallies behind breastfeeding, the more companies step up and make public statements, the more elementary through college aged kids see breastfeeding, the more it will be accepted.

How can you help?

Tweet Dunkin’ Donuts or write on their Facebook page, “What’s your breastfeeding policy, Dunkin’ Donuts? Do you support families, breastfeeding in your stores?”

I hope they take the time to state they follow their state laws and support the right to breastfed. They can help be a part of the much needed social change in America but taking a moment to stand up to bullies on Twitter.

Have you breastfed at Dunkin’ Donuts or in your local donut or coffee shop? How were you treated?

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Stouthaus Coffee in Austin tells breastfeeding mom to cover up, causes public backlash – Owners apologize

Stouthaus Coffee in Austin has unfortunately made themselves known today for telling a breastfeeding mom to cover up during her recent visit. The mother left a review on their Facebook page and things escalated from there.


Texas Health Code Ann. § 165.002 (1995) authorizes a woman to breastfeed her child in any location. The coffee shop’s discriminatory actions spread like wildfire on social media. Mothers like Stephanie wrote comments and reviews on the cafe’s Facebook page.

You’ll notice the cafe responded above. This was their full response:

While it seems they tried to be understanding, they really missed the mark. Covers are used by some breastfeeding mothers but they are not used by all and they are not necessary for breastfeeding to be acceptable. Many infants and children refuse to use them and let’s face it, they’re hot and just something else to carry around.

Why is breastfeeding a legal right?

Because breastfeeding is not an obscene or lewd act. Nearly every state in the US protects breastfeeding in public and states breastfeeding may not be considered an act of public indecency, indecent exposure, sexual conduct, lewd touching or obscenity. Breastfeeding is for the nourishment and comfort of our children, their basic human right, which is why it’s protected by law and recommended by all of the major health organizations. Using a cover or not is up to the mother and child and no one else. No one should make it their business to interfere with a mother tending to her child’s needs and make it about them, causing embarrassment and possibly damaging the mother’s breastfeeding goals.

How can you help?

If you would like to help stop these repeated acts of breastfeeding harassment and push for Texas get an enforcement provision, a legal consequence for violating the right to breastfeed, contact your legislators and tell them you support HB 232. According to Adam & Krisdee Donmoyer of Keep Austin Nursing in Public, the bill authored by Representative Farrar “will educate business owners that the right to breastfeed exists under current law (helping to end the ignorance) and will make it illegal to violate that right, and will give mothers recourse if they face discrimination.” Wouldn’t it be great if the law made it known that asking a mother to cover up, move, or leave is discrimination, that restricting breastfeeding in a public or private place is strictly prohibited? There would be no questioning the right to breastfeed.

If you can, please attend the Legislative Action Day #2. If you can’t make it you can still contact your legislators. Explore for more information and resources on supporting HB 232 as well as the other important breastfeeding bills.

Have you ever breastfed at this coffee shop or your own local cafe? How were you treated? Does your state have an enforcement provision? Check your state laws!

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The owner of Stouthaus Coffee, Sandy Hughes, was interviewed by KXAN news:

“We have breastfeeding mothers in here all the time and I was a breastfeeding mother myself,” explained Hughes. “I have mothers who have been in before and have never had to use a cover up but this occasion was different. In this particular case, the customer was breastfeeding but occasionally the breastfeeding wasn’t happening and she was fully exposed.”

It’s unfortunate that she’s blaming the mistreatment of the mother on the victim instead of taking responsibility and apologizing. I am certain that there isn’t anyone in that coffee shop that hasn’t ever seen a boob before. It’s not a big deal. I would love to see this business owner place a “Breastfeeding is welcome” sticker in their window and become a haven for breastfeeding moms.

**2nd UPDATE 2.25.2015 @ 9:28pm**

More news on the incident. The company owners have shared this public apology on Facebook.

As the owner and the person who had the actual conversation with our customer, I’d like to sincerely apologize for how this was approached. My hope is to personally contact the mother I offended and offer my her my apology directly.

As a former breastfeeding mother of two, I fully support this practice, covered or not. We are new business owners and have made a mistake that we will learn from and move forward with. I understand that a written apology cannot convey my heart, but we are a husband-and-wife run, “pro-family” business. And we really do love our community, our city and the right to breastfeed openly. Nursing mothers have always been, and will continue to be welcome at Stouthaus Coffee.

Thank you. Sandy Hughes.”


If you’ve left a negative comment or review, please take a moment to revise it or add some positive words of appreciation and encouragement. I have sent them this note:


This was exactly what the public needed to hear. Thank you for telling everyone that you were also a breastfeeding mother and that you and your husband and your employees will always support breastfeeding families. Will you take it a step further and put a “Breastfeeding is welcome here” or international breastfeeding logo sticker in your window? It would be amazing to see that there, every time a mom walked into your shop she’d feel supported. 
Best wishes on a thriving business. Perhaps I will stop by on my next visit home.
Paala Secor”
**3rd Update**

Stouthaus posted this open letter on their Facebook page:

“An open letter to our community:

When we opened the doors to Stouthaus only five months ago, we wanted to promote three things; coffee, beer, and community. We painted the German word “Stammtisch” on our wall. It roughly translates to “regulars’ table”. To us, it means that our shop is an open place for you, our community, to sit and join us. The beautiful part about community is that it’s alive and ever-changing. While we may make mistakes, we learn from each other and grow because of one another. We want to take a moment to address the parties involved in the events of the last 24 hours.

To our customers; we thank you for all of your continued support. We appreciate that you see us as sincere people who want to provide you with a good experience. We ask that you continue to support us and always feel welcome in Stouthaus.

To the community of mothers in Austin and their supporters; thank you for the passion you have for your cause. Thank you for educating us on a real and concerning issue. We now have a better understanding of the challenges that mothers are faced with while trying to to do what’s right for their children and we are grateful for that.

To Amberly; thank you most of all for voicing your experience. We know that it isn’t always easy to speak up. We sincerely apologize for your experience and we want you to know that you are always welcome in Stouthaus.

As a result of the issues from the last 24 hours, we will be fully embracing this Saturday’s Nurse-In at Stouthaus from 3 – 7:00 PM. We will be providing cupcakes to those who participate. We will also be donating 10% of all of Saturday’s sales to the Mothers’ Milk Bank at Austin. If you would also like to make a donation to the Mothers’ Milk Bank at Austin, visit

James & Sandy Hughes
Stouthaus Coffee Pub”


American Airlines made breastfeeding mom dump her milk

American Airlines, a repeat offender when it comes to mishandling breastfeeding families, was reported for making a breastfeeding mom, Lisa, dump her breast milk earlier this month.

Lisa has tried to reach the airline to talk about what happened without any response. She contacted Family Friendly Business, a non-profit organization that helps mother and businesses in times like these, and asked for their help.

[Original Tweet]

Unfortunately, the airlines has ignored their attempts to contact them as well.

In 2013, the airline made international headlines for telling a mother to cover up. I wrote about the incident and the nurse-in that followed. Earlier in 2013, another mother told she could not pump during an American Airlines flight. Now this mother, Lisa, has been discriminated against and they are not taking any action to make amends.

It’s no wonder breastfeeding moms are often worried about flying. US Airways and the Toronto International Airport have not treated breastfeeding mothers kindly this month either.

How can you help?

Please contact American Airlines to make a respectful complaint and ask that they do their best to treat breastfeeding women and children with consideration.

Or contact Department of Transportation to send a complaint about airline service to the office of the Aviation Consumer Protection Division at:
Aviation Consumer Protection Division, C-75 U.S. Department of Transportation 1200 New Jersey Ave., S.E. Washington, D.C. 20590

Have you ever had a problem bringing your pumped breast milk in an airport or on board a plane?

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