After sharing my favorite breastfeeding past infancy photos last week in my post, “Why I support breastfeeding past infancy & why you should too,” I started receiving photos from readers in solidarity. I took that opportunity to ask my readers to share their own personal experience with breastfeeding into toddlerhood and beyond by answering a few questions and a photo if they’d like to share. I wasn’t expecting over a hundred and thirty replies in just about 24-hours but I am so happy these women came forward.
These were my questions, if they felt like answering them:
1) List the age of your nursling(s).
2) Weaning. Has your child weaned? Share how your breastfeeding relationship came to an end. How you both felt. What age they were.
3) Does your partner or family or community support you in breastfeeding past infancy?
4) Were you breastfed past infancy? What age did you wean?
These are their words and photos:
(1) Lesley McKissick
1) Current nursling is 2 yrs, 9 mns.
2) Older child weaned herself at 2 yrs 5 mns. I was pregnant and she just stopped one day and was totally fine.
3) He supports me, as does both of our families. He even talks to his friends about breastfeeding and the awesome-ness of it all!
4) I am told I was breastfed until about 18 months. I have a picture of myself standing on the kitchen table, nursing.
(Can’t find a recent pic of her nursing, but these are my little nursling and ex nursling!)
(2) Catherine Latchford: Early morning mummies two years old
(3) Danielle Mokas: 12.5 months and going strong!
(4) Darcy Page: My current nursling is 14 months.
My three others weaned at 3 1/2, 4 1/2, and almost 3.
I am completely supported by my partner, friends, family, and online and real life communities. They’d better be supportive, since I’m a volunteer breastfeeding supporter and advocate working toward changing my state’s breastfeeding laws.
I was nursed until 2 (in the 70s when almost no one was breastfed!)
(5) Heather Pearson: An older photo of me and my nursling. She will be 3 next month and still breastfeed several times a day, especially first thing in the morning and at night before bed. I really witnessed the power of extended breastfeeding last month, when she was in a terrible accident and spent 3 days in the ICU. Being able to nurse her really helped calm her and get through the ordeal.
(6) Laura Major: My son just weaned himself right before he turned 1, a couple weeks ago. It broke my heart. I still try to offer everyday and he wants nothing to do with it anymore.
(7) Amber David: 1) 4yrs7m, 2yrs8m, and 11m
2) None of my children have chosen to wean yet.
3) My partner is 100% supportive.
4) I was bf until I was about 6 months old and then my mom fell into boobytraps.
(8) Belinda Margetts: Magic sleep boobies 16 mo and no chance of stopping soon. Very well supported by friends and family. Her sister has decided she is giving up boobies when she turns 4 (in 5 weeks) Not holding our breath on that.
(9) Jeni Holland: 1.) currently nursing my 21 month old daughter.
2.) my youngest has not weaned yet and probably won’t for a while. My middle daughter weaned at 13-14 months because I was pregnant and dried up. My oldest weaned at 6 months due to work issues. (Long story).
3.) my husband fully supports me breastfeeding past infancy. If any family doesn’t support us they haven’t voiced their opinion, so I’m assuming they support us.
4.) I was not breastfed at all due to my mom having a fever when I was born. She was advised not to breastfeed (this was 30 years ago).
(10) Jennifer Newman McFettridge: This photo was over a year ago, but I am still breastfeeding her. She is turning 4 years old tomorrow! I also breastfed my other daughter in this photo until she was just over 2 years old. I was not breastfed as a baby/child.
(11) Becca Biggs: Weaned at 3.5
Support from hubby
Support from hubby family
Not a lot of support from my family “he’s to old” blah my baby
I was not Breast fed.
(12) Christen Prochaska 1) My son is three and still nurses on a regular basis. My daughter is almost six months old and is getting better at nursing every day (she was three months early so we had a late start).
3) No. It actually is one of the recurring themes of arguments with my husband. He finds it embarrassing even though only his family sees him nurse in our own home (my son isn’t interested when we’re out and about). (He only thinks it’s normal to nurse an infant.)
4) No, I believe I was less than six months old when my mom had gal bladder surgery and I guess I just stopped after that.
(13) Crystal Henson: He was 18 months here. He is two now and we are still breastfeeding about 4x a day. My husband is very supportive.
[Emily Tesnow Photography]
(14) Sarah Gregory-Ferguson: My nursling is 15months and will continue as needed/wanted My partner supports me fully. My family supports us too! My twin sisters breastfeed and have breastfed theirs until they were around 2. I breastfed my two other girls (now 12 and 8) until about a year. I was not breastfed. All my other siblings were. It is awesome how as my sisters and I have grown the things we teach each other and teach our mother. And the things she has taught us. It is quite beautiful. And so precious!
(15) Sarah Ann Tyler: 1) my first weaned at 14 months. My daughter is 12.5 months and still frequently nurses
2) my son weaned at 14 months before that he only breastfed at nap or bed time. He moved on like nothing I was expecting it to last longer.
3) my husband totally supports me breastfeeding with no buts. Some family gets weirded out by it but I don’t care.
4) I was breastfed till I was like 2. My mom quit breastfeeding me after my sister was conceived because of contractions and she had had previous miscarriages.
(16) Christina DeVaux Menis: 33 months and no end in sight Nursing her 6 month old sister too.
(17) Victoria Irwin: Still nursing my 21 month old daughter. No sign of weaning yet. Hopefully not anytime soon. I have full support from my partner and family. And I was unfortunately not breastfed. Here is our holiday family photo.
(18) Becca Steiner: 15 months, still breastfeeding, 110% partner supported, no idea when I weaned.
(19) Steph Uh Nie: 1) my son will be 2 years old this Thursday and is nowhere near being ready to wean! I’ve had my “I’m so done” moments (usually around 4am when he’s twiddling my nipples and I’m PMS-ing) but I’m not. And neither is he. We’ll stop when he’s ready.
3) I’ve felt more opposition from people I’m close to than strangers which is an something I didn’t expect. My son’s father and I are not together and he is not supportive. I’ve had to fight to keep my baby at my breast.
My own mother (who breastfed me until I was about 5 I think, answering the next question;)) is always horrified when I NIP! She’s always telling me how inappropriate it is.
I am undeterred. I stand here on the front lines of full term breastfeeding normalization with you, my sisters. And if I face ridicule, so be it.
It’s clear I’m not alone, and my son is happy and healthy
Love to you all!!
(20) Desiree Tara Woolery Larson: Tandem nursing my 22 month old and 5 month old.
(21) Katherine Havener: My breastfeeding tally so far – baby 1 – 6 months, baby 2 – 3 years, baby 3 – 3 years 7 months, baby 4 – 14 months and counting. I love breastfeeding but as we hit the 3 year mark, it starts really feeling uncomfortable so I have encouraged weaning both times. I was not breastfed at all. Here is a pic of my third daughter nursing right before she weaned. She’s about 3.5 here. Love her so much!
(22) Tonia Neal Johnson: My sweet little nurslings. My son is almost three, my daughter is 6 months. My family and community supports us for the most part. A large number of his friends are breastfeeding as well, and I have people to talk to about tandem nursing…nursing while pregnant…ups and downs of nursing…figuring how/when/if to wean. My husband is my biggest supporter in that he thinks the whole thing is boringly normal. When out and about, outside my friendly little bubble, I forget that it isn’t. Or more that no one else is talking about it, and that some people even think its weird or terrible. To us, it is just a part of life.
(23) Emily Ann Oleson: My daughter turned 2 in August and is still nursing with no end in sight. As a LLL leader and lactation counselor I firmly stand behind the benefits of breastfeeding regardless of age. My fiancé supports me 100% although he is wondering when we will be stopping, but none of us could have thought we would continue this long- it’s just what works for our family.
I was never breastfed and my mom does not agree with my choice to nurse my child, let alone past 2.
This photo was from a pin up breastfeeding calendar we did over the summer.
(24) Jeanne Lawrence: 1) 2.5 years old still going strong with no intention to stop or wean.
3) my mommy friends support it, my husband loves it, my family on both sides supports it. I even nurse him while coaching gymnastics classes and no one has an issue ever. It’s been great.
4) yes all 5 of us nursed past infancy. No idea when we weaned but likely 2 yr because my sister was born then and we did not tandem. The youngest was like 4. We will wean when he’s ready. His Pediatrician asked me to nurse till he’s 3.5 at least.
Ps in the photo he is holding the cat after they got in a fight and one ended up scratched and crying. This is how they say sorry to each other. A great big cuddle.
(25) Shannon Elizabeth Bagby: We are going on 11 months and doesn’t look like we are stopping any time soon.
(26) Anna Hurley: This kiddo will be three in May. I am almost 26 weeks pregnant and was sitting inside a bounce house playing when she wanted to nurse.
When I tell her it is time to switch sides (I don’t have terrible nursing aversion but I can’t really sit in one position for too long because I can’t breathe) she will hold up her pointer finger to indicate one second. She thinks she is hilarious! She kind of is lol
She also things the idea of milk in the fridge coming from a cow’s boobie is hilarious. Haha!
(27) Tania Henderson
This is my youngest, 2.5, the above is my oldest about 6m ago, she is 4.5 & they are both still breastfeeding. I am 26weeks pregnant. I have lots of support but was breastfed myself until 6m, then put onto goats milk.
(28) Garner Neuenschwander: 1. I’m tandem nursing an almost 4 month old and an almost 4 year old.
2. Nope we practice child led weaning.
3. Yes, I do not give them another option.
4. I was born in 83, my mom weaned me before age 2.
My daughters will be 4 months and 4 years, both next week.
(29) Ashley DeBaca: 18 mos strong. Family makes some silly comments but no harassment or arguments. Not sure when we’re going to wean. I was never breastfed. Lol crappy pic but couldn’t stop laughing.
(30) Amanda Elizabeth Green: 1. He turns 2 next month
2. No weaning for us yet! I am back to work and he doesn’t take a bottle, but he nurses when we’re together.
3. Yes. I have the best family and in-laws ever.
4. My mom always bragged about extended breastfeeding me. I was weaned soon after my 2nd birthday. I really think that laid the foundation for my breastfeeding relationship with my son.
(31) Brandy Kincaid: I was formula fed. My oldest is 9 and nursed until my milk dried up when I got pregnant, she was 22 months old, I lost that baby at 32 weeks, I pumped and donated 500 ounces of milk and oldest Lo started nursing again and stopped at 28 months. Third child nursed 30 months, when I was pregnant and milk dried up. Youngest child is 3 and nurses before bed a few nights a week. I am super sad that he is weaning I have been nursing the better part of ten years… I have a good friend that has a newborn and is having trouble producing, so I am in the process of attempting to relactate to pump for her. *fingers crossed*
(32) Alexis Lopez-Curry: My sweet 18 month old daughter snuggling my breast while breastfeeding and sleeping I am planning on letting her be the one to wean herself instead of me weaning her.
(33) Mon Salazar: 1. Son 3 yrs, daughter 9 months
2. No weaning yet, but my breastfeeding relationship with my son has ended on my part. I do not enjoy it at all but he is still determined on nursing so I’m just sucking it up. Breastfeeding relationship with my daughter is going great and hopefully for a couple more years.
3. Yes and no. No one really cares but once in a blue moon my partner will say “it’s time” and I get very sad.
4. No, I wasn’t. My twin and I had an occasional wet nurse for the first few weeks of life.
(34) Crystal Brown: My boys are almost 4 1/2 years old and 17 months old. I will be breastfeeding until they decide they are done. My oldest still nurses at least 3 times a day and more if he’s not feeling well. My youngest, well, he nurses pretty much constantly right now! I nurse them both anywhere. It hasn’t always been easy, but it’s one of the best decisions I’ve ever made and I cherish our nursing relationship! I couldn’t imagine not nursing either one. I share our story and photos on Facebook in hopes of helping to normalize full term breastfeeding and inspire other moms who may feel pressured to wean before they would like to. My husband is extremely supportive. He has never had anything negative to say about it and he shares the facts with people who question it. Some family members have expressed some discomfort with it, but for the most part I haven’t gotten much negativity. I was adopted and was not breastfed at all. My mom always said she didn’t feel like she missed out having never been pregnant, but she always wished she could have breastfed. You may definitely share our story.
(35) Penny Laurel CaptaincrunchMontgomery Schlanser: I’m nursing a 21 month old and my oldest still nursing will be 5 in May.
(36) Leyla Forrest: I nursed 4 years 9 months and 8 days, tandem for 14 months. Breast cancer stole that relationship from us. I kicked it’s booty…..I’m 100%.cancer free.
I support ALL moms breastfeeding relationships whether it be pumped, donor milk, from the tap, 3 hours….days….months….years or beyond. And please be vigilant about your bodies.
[Photography by April Smith]
(37) Sally Briles Rogers: Nursing a 3 year old and 15 month old…best thing ever!..it provides an instant calm on those tense days. My 3 year old still takes 2-3 hour naps (not sure if related to extended nursing but I’ll take it!)..i also have 2 older children that I nursed until 1 year..didn’t know much about extended nursing then .great support from family..one funny conversation was when my Dr told me it was time to wean my 1 yr old and I laughed and said “well I guess you better tell his older brother then too !”..nothing more was said.
(38) Katherine Skinner Francis: Nursed my last till 2yrs 3/4 months he weaned him self as my milk dried up with pregnancy. But he still once in a while shows interest and then changes his mind makes me wonder if I’ll be tandem nursing.
(39) Hana Sai: 1) My son is currently 10 months old.
2) He hasn’t weaned and doesn’t show any signs of it. I’m hoping we will make it to at least 2 years old.
3) My husband is okay with us going to two years old. Not sure how he feels about going any further than that.
4) I was breastfed until 1 year old
(40) Lowenna Rappo: 1)This is my 2.5 yr old (3 in June). We are tandem feeding along with her 4 month old sister. (I also comp with formula due to low milk supply, tongue/lip tie). (Had to comp for both girls). She fed throughout my pregnancy even when I lost my supply.
2) We have night weaned (at 2 yrs 3 months just after her baby sister was born) although she sometimes sneaks in for a feed after a bad dream etc.
Hoping to feed her till about 3 but will let her wean on her own.
3) They are supportive but some only think I should feed her at home and not in public. I have had some positive comments and some negative but my husband is supportive. Being in Australia we are lucky that breastfeeding isn’t too frowned upon.
4) I was breastfed until 1.
(41) Sandi DiMarco: This pretty much sums up how nursing my toddler is this was about 5 months ago, he’s now 18 months, and we are nursing g through pregnancy!
(42) Ashley Nichole McMullen: I am currently tandem nursing my boys ages 25 months and 13 months. My husband is super supportive! He’d breastfed if he could. My parents and siblings are supportive as well. The rest of my family is slightly weirded out by my “extended” nursing. My 25 month old has been slowly weaning as we are down to 2-3 sessions a day. My 13 month old is still very much attached!
I was formula fed. My mom was young and a full time student. She however, nursed my two youngest brothers past infancy!
This is our first nursing session together.
(43) Alissa Gomez-Dean: Tandem nursing my almost 3 and 4 year old! Will post a pic when they wake up and nurse again! Love these!
(44) Lacee Martin: They were just over 14 months here and self weaned a week after this picture so it’s our last nursing picture.
(45) Kimberly Mulkey: 1. Daughter is 3 1/2
2. We are weaning, we are both ready, and she gets it now and that makes me happy. I’m extremely proud of myself for nursing this long, I never imagined it would have ever turned out like this.
3. My husband (we are now separated) has become unsupportive at her age, and has been since she was 2. Lots of people (co workers and friends) say it’s weird, I don’t think it’s weird. I laugh it off and don’t let it bother me!
4. I wasn’t breastfed.
(46) Michelle Streeter: 1. 19 months on the 27th
2. still nursing
3. No one has said anything negative to me about it at all.
4. I was formula fed
This was taken tonight.
(47) Joyce Blanton Joyce: Nursing my baby girl at 19 months…first time nursing in public since she turned 1. I was afraid to nurse in public when she got bigger. This was at my nephews graduation and the only rude comments were from my own family. We are still nursing and she’s 26 months I love nursing her and am proud of it! She’s my youngest of 7 kids and the only one I breastfed past infancy
1) 26 months
2) not even close
3) My husband, my work, and my mom yes but not my sister.
4) I was formula fed
(48) Samantha Paige Skaggs: Nursing my son who turned 2 end of October. We have a lot of support from family! I think we may start a slow wean soon to end by 3 yo. I didn’t breastfeed my first past 4.5 months so this is awesome! I was only nursed to 6 weeks.
(49) Michelle Sherrill Rushing: My nurslings are 3 and 1. My older two were weaned early (14 months and 19 months) because I didn’t know any better. My oldest went on what I now know was a nursing strike and at the time I just thought she had self weaned and stopped offering. My second went through what I now can recognize as a developmental transition and would regularly nurse for just looking enough to cause a letdown and then leave. I thought this meant he no longer needed milk and therefore no longer needed nursing so I essentially force weaned him. When you know better you can do better so my little two will nurse until whenever they choose. My husband reports to have No opinions on when the babies wean. He leaves mother/baby feeding to be decided by mother/baby. He believes fathers are not biologically meant to be part of that decision. In daily application he is very supportive. Extended family (my mother and siblings) were supportive until I got pregnant with #4 when #3 was 15 months old and I continued breastfeeding. They braved a few judgmental comments and questions while I was pregnant and were met with some pretty hostile feedback. They no longer offer opinions but do occasionally ask whether my 3 year old is STILL nursing. I confirm that she is, with a warning eyebrow, and the topic quickly changes. I do find some support in the community, but less and less as I pull closer to the front line of the oldest nursling in the group. I certainly was not breastfed past infancy. I believe my mother waned us all to cows milk in a bottle around 6 months.
(50) Anya Matkowski: 21 months old and going strong.
Did you or are you breastfeeding past infancy? Comment below or send me an email at email@example.com with your favorite breastfeeding photo (with credit to the photographer if needed) or just your words to help normalize it, show support for other moms who have come out internationally in the media or those that are closet breastfeeding. We are not alone.
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