Wow. Where has the time gone? I missed my unofficial Sweet Links release day yesterday. Monday is usually when I catch up on my reading after being busy all weekend with family activities (this weekend was Bodega Bay, see my Breastfeeding At The Beach post) but last night I was busy watching Junebug with the husband and man, was that movie depressing. On so many levels. Regarding how they depicted labor and birth, it was shameful. The labor scene was intended to be comical, the over played “rushing the laboring woman into a tiny car and telling her not to break her water on the clean seats” bit. Then the nurses at the hospital would not let her sit up in bed, where she is of course laying down, the WORST position for pushing a baby out. The husband was not by her side. She didn’t have a midwife or doula. And sadly, her baby dies, and the first thing they say about why the baby died was “she refused fetal monitoring,” immediately blaming her without saying it outright. That made me FURIOUS. At least the mother stands up for herself soon after in her emotional breakdown, when she cries, “The doctors think they know everything but they don’t! They don’t!” Or something along those lines.
Did you hear about the mother-to-be who was wheeled into an operating room for a c-section for “failure to progress” but when she was accidentally locked inside by herself, she had the baby all by herself, unassisted, and everything was fine? Yea. It was reported a nurse in the hospital. (Read about it here at Labor and Deliverance.) It isn’t all that shocking to me, the mother being able to birth naturally after being unable to birth with everyone around her. What is shameful is how hospitals can label mothers with “failure to progress” and cut their babies out on a whim, like it isn’t a big deal, when it has serious possible side effects, not to mention they are robbing mothers and children of precious moment, critical experience. Many long term effects that I’m sure we don’t know about now but will in the coming decades will come to light about c-sections. Ina May reported that there was not ONE SINGLE CASE of “failure to progress” during all of her work, overseeing thousands of births at the Farm in the last 30 or so years.
Anyway, after I was sad from watching Junebug, I checked my site stats before going to bed. The best search engine term of the day that made me crack up: “kicked in the nuts vs childbirth.”
Here are some interesting articles worth reading that I feel are not a waste of your precious kid-free time.
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“Soaring rates of allergies among children in recent decades have researchers puzzled. One theory says we’re too clean, so kids’ immune systems never learn how to deal with foreign invaders — even the harmless ones. Researchers now hope they’ll find some answers by studying kids on farms.”
“A new study suggests that there’s a slight increase in the risk of brain cancer and leukemia associated with CT scans for children. Experts say, in most cases, the risk doesn’t not outweigh the benefit of the CT scan, but call on doctors to be more selective in ordering them.”
When are we going to realize that keeping things as natural as possible is the best thing for us, our children, and our planet?
- Can ‘being healthy’ make you sick? - The Deranged Housewife
I just realized the Deranged Housewife and I have something in common, besides being deranged. Being hyper-hygenic is not a good thing. Everyone should question the validity and long term effects of each and every vaccine and antibiotic we and our children are offered. And we should all just similantaeously throw out our hand sanitizers and never look back.
- Hey, Liar, Liar. Four Things To Consider Before You Keep On Lying to Your Child – Authentic Parenting
Liar, Liar: I admit, I have told a few white lies, like saying a dessert I’m eating in the car that my toddler is crying about wanting has coffee in it so she suddenly doesn’t want it. What am I supposed to say? Or am I just never ever ever supposed to eat junk food that she shouldn’t have so she won’t want it too? I read somewhere that hiding all “bad” food is not the way to go about it but allowing it occasionally is. But what if that is ALL my child wants? Jelly and sugar on toast. Muffins. Cupcakes. Ice cream. She is a sugar fiend and I don’t like it! I also encourage imagination so sometimes I joke about something like saying there are dinosours in the walls or something, but besides that, I feel that I am pretty truthful to my child. What lies do you tell? Or are you straight as an arrow?
- Mount Mommy: Discovering Real Strength – The Badass Breastfeeder
A good read about finding strength as a mother. Giving birth is nothing like having to take care of the child, having to make those hard decisions, do what is best and right while raising them, and see them through sometimes painful times.
A little humor from Mama Birth about being touched out and exhausted. I felt the exact same way last night.
“I will admit, right now, that I have bad days. Awful days where I wonder why I am performing so very poorly in such an important task. I do and say things that I am ashamed of and that I hope my children will not remember about me. I have crappy mom moments. ”
“Just this week I was sick. I had one day that I was feeling awful and spent a lot of time in bed. In my stupor I came to the conclusion that, A) Nobody should ever touch me again and B) I was so freaking tired of nursing.”
Speaking of nursing, check out these breastfeeding sweet links.
This piece, Healing at the Breast, hits a little closer to home than I’d like. I won’t get into details but she knows what she’s talking about. And asking a mother to cover up, abuse survivor or not, is shame inducing. It is NOT her problem if someone else finds breasts uncomfortable. It is legal to breastfeed in public, completely uncovered, and anyone who asks a mother to cover should be ashamed of themselves. (Related: Do you support breastfeeding?)
Michelle Hickman, the Target nurse in organizer, wrote this piece and says, “This will be an amazing one of a kind protection for breastfeeding moms if it passes.”
“This bill would make California the first state in the nation to make breastfeeding mothers a “protected class of persons” in the context of employment, deserving of the same protections against all kinds of employment discrimination (i.e., substantial change in terms of employment, unlawful termination, hostile work environment) that others are afforded for race, sex, religion, disability (including pregnancy), age, etc. ”
What do I think? AWESOME!!!!!!!! I totally think nursing mothers (and subsequently our babies) should be a “protected class.” I mean, people should respect everyone, all the time, but since that’s not the kind of world we live in, people who disrespect and discriminate against nursing mothers should be reprimanded. Because mothers are just doing their best to feed their children and if everyone supported them, instead of making breastfeeding an even harder job than it already is, our nation could stand to save billions of dollars a year on unnecessary healthcare costs, saving children and families and adults for a wide range of preventable sicknesses, diseases, and cancers!
- A Nurse With A Home Water Birth - Mama Birth
I love this progressive image and the wonderful homebirth story. Read it!
Also, I’d like to thank my children for being PTFO right now so I could finish this blog. XO!