Grandmother’s photo share gets reported, Facebook’s breastfeeding policy holds

Photographer and grandmother Mechelle DeRouen Thompson shared this photo of her daughter and granddaughter with me yesterday. I just had to share her message.

“I put up a breastfeeding shot last night and someone reported it. Facebook did NOT take it down so I view it as a personal victory. I wanted to share the picture with you and others. Contrary to what it may seem, my daughter Laken is a fairly modest person except when Lily is hungry. You won’t find Lily sweating under a blanket in 90 degree Louisiana weather just so her eating won’t “offend” anyone. You won’t find Laken nursing Lily in a corner of a filthy bathroom so as not to “offend” anyone in a restaurant, while bottle fed babies eat at tables with their parents, and you will never hear Laken apologize to rude people who flash her mean, disgusted looks expecting her to nurse Lily in her car rather than “offend” anyone with breastfeeding a baby where they can see.

Breastfeeding women are not looking for attention or even wanting to give you a peep show, they are just Mother’s trying to fulfill a basic need of their babies along with lots of love. Please be kind to them, encourage them, and show them that it is more than ok, it’s wonderful.

Happy World Breastfeeding Week!!!!! xoxoxoxo”

My thoughts? It’s a shame that some people think this nurturing moment between a mother and child is something that shouldn’t be seen and take the time to flag and report it. Censorship and bullying of women for using their breasts for what they were made to do, for doing something that is specifically protected by state and federal laws, is unacceptable behavior. Thankfully, Facebook stood by their breastfeeding policy and allowed it. I really do think more grandparents support breastfeeding than have a problem with it. It makes sense to support families and allow our babies to thrive. Thank you for sharing your story, Mechelle!

Do your parents or grandparents support breastfeeding? Have you had a breastfeeding photo reported on Facebook?

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My Photo Shared on Huffington Post, marking the change of Facebook’s breastfeeding photo policy

Seeing breastfeeding is important, as is being able to share those images without fear of scorn or deletion. Facebook has finally updated their policy regarding breastfeeding images. They now match most state laws that specifically allow nipple exposure during breastfeeding. Exposure during breastfeeding doesn’t constitute indecent exposure. Why is this important? Basically, Facebook is slowly but surely realizing that women, or at least breastfeeding mothers at this time, are allowed to live in their own skin and share images of themselves topless (and breastfeeding) without being deleted for nudity.

My breastfeeding photo was shared by Soraya Chemaly on The Huffington Post yesterday when she announced the policy change.

I was also quoted in Monica Beyer’s article on She Knows about Facebook’s censorship of the Badass Breastfeeder after this new change was in effect.

It’s time to test Facebook’s new breastfeeding policy. Here’s my message to Facebook.

Facebook: You say you allow breastfeeding mothers to share their photos without cropping out their nipples?

Prove it.

We are proud to nourish our babies with our breasts and we will not be shamed for it. We will share our special/difficult/funny/priceless breastfeeding moments with our friends, families, and community and we will not to told to keep them to ourselves. Enough with the shaming of women. We are mothers and we are strong. We are equal.

I’m going to post this photo today with these words and see how long it’s allowed to stay up. Meanwhile, men all over Facebook are allowed to post topless photos of themselves with no baby clause. Anyone who wants to be rude about my body is welcome to read this poignant Guardian article about the problem with attacking breastfeeding mothers online.

Although I am certain more mothers will be flagged and photos will be deleted over the coming months, I feel liberated to have this barrier lifted on breastfeeding moms after years of tireless work by so many people. I am happy to help the cause in my own way. ‪#‎freethenipple‬

How do you feel about this policy change on Facebook? Will you share your own breastfeeding photos without shame?

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**Update 6/10/2014 9:33PM**

A reader shared this screen shot with me. If you read it, it says that my photo was reported for containing nudity or pornography but it was reviewed and found that it does not violate community standards. Facebook’s new policy is working! At least for my photo. What a wonderful step for breastfeeding mothers and all women! I have already heard of other ladies who have had their photos, far less revealing than mine, being removed today. I hope they are able to appeal their removals because when one mother is shamed, we all are.

Photo credit: Amber Scott. View on Facebook.

As for my personal thoughts on the public’s reaction to my photo, I am amazed by the power of social media. In a mere 6 hours my photo has reached nearly 300k people. It has been liked 5,847 times, shared 1,747 times, and I’d like to think at least half of the 1,739 comments on my photo are supportive. And hey, even if they are not, I know that without a doubt that I am helping women all over the world. I have received so many positive messages in my inbox today from mothers, each telling me how I’ve helped them. And it’s not just today. I didn’t just show up on the scene this morning and throw this photo out there, no. I’ve been blogging about breastfeeding news, Facebook censorship, and NIP (nursing in public) harassment incidents and my journey through motherhood here on this page for two and a half years. I’ve worked hard to create positive breastfeeding posters to encourage breastfeeding mothers. I have helped organize nurse-ins with other major breastfeeding activists and have assisted mothers after they’ve been harassed for breastfeeding in public find out who to speak to. I have enjoyed sharing my breastfeeding photos, helping normalize breastfeeding for the new generation of mothers, and reminding those that are no longer nursing how sweet their time was with their young children. I know that my children are proud to see their photos in magazines as well. I have saved copies of each publication for them so they can have them when they are older and starting their own families.

Each little thing I do helps give other mothers the confidence to nurse in public, to stand up against a family member that isn’t being supportive, to breastfeed through a pregnancy and tandem feed, to keep going through a rough patch. At the very least, seeing my breastfeeding photos shows everyone that there are women out there breastfeeding, that it is normal and they can do it too.

We don’t see breastfeeding mothers out and about nursing their children often enough and when we do, sometimes we’re shy and can’t bring ourselves to say hello or give a thumbs up. But just know if I ever see you in person, I am thinking awesome things about you.

Breastfeed with pride, mamas!

**2nd Update 6.10.2014 11:07pm**

My photo seems to have gone away without warning sometime right before 11pm tonight. This is what I see this now:

Let’s see what I can do about this. Until I get that deleted photo back up, if it’s even possible, I will just reshare the photo again. I have not received any messages from Facebook warning me it was going to be taken down, it just disappeared.

This was my last screen shot of the activity on the photo just past 10PM:

[Screen shot shared on Facebook 10:25am 6.11.2014]

Look how many people supported and shared this photo. It was really wonderful.

Now that it was taken down, I am not sure how to go about getting a hold of anyone. Clicking around, I found a section to submit a question. So I just typed this question up and it doesn’t look like anyone is actually going to see it on Facebook:

So then I tried another option. I reported a problem. But then when I was done it said it wasn’t going to be reviewed. This was my message, as seen in the Support Dashboard:

**3rd Update 6.11.2014 @ 9:31am**

When I woke up this morning, I was logged out of Facebook on my phone and computer. This never happens. Actually, it only happens when FB wants me to log back in and immediately tell me bad news. So I logged back in and sure enough, FB told me a photo on my page was reported for nudity and doesn’t meet community guidelines. They showed the photo of it to me – It was a photo of my daughter holding my infant son, but only his little boy nipples could be seen so I don’t know why it was taken down. I thought boy nipples were okay but I guess FB is cracking down on adorable photos of babies. Anyway, these are my screen shots:

Oh wait, I guess you can see my daughter’s nipple. Maybe that was it. Anyway, the point is, I was not given warnings like this for my breastfeeding photos. After seeing these messages, I went on to my page to check things out. I saw that my breastfeeding repost from late last night was taken down without warning/notice and the original post is still gone.

I am in the middle of trying to figure out why Facebook has removed my breastfeeding image twice now in the last 24 hours without warning, when screen shots last night confirmed that it wasn’t taken down for nudity. They gave me a proper explanation for another photo that was taken down but nothing for my breastfeeding photos. I find this unfair. The people who have been coming on to my page to condemn me think they’ve won. Some distasteful woman proudly exclaimed something about me being a trashy cunt, and her being glad she got my photo down. Was it her? I don’t know. Was it a glitch twice? Unlikely. These people who cannot accept our human bodies, babies breastfeeding on their mother’s chests, think they have won, that Facebook sided with them. I will not stand for it.

**4th Update 6.11.2014 @ 11:11am**

I am hearing from a couple of sources that my photo that was taken down twice might have just been done by bots, not people. We’ll see what I hear next, if I can get these photos back. I have now joined twitter so feel free to follow me on there as I work through this.

My first tweet:

**5th Update 6.11.2014 @ 1:45pm**

I’m being told FB is working on the “errors” that keep taking down my photos. Until they’re back up, I’m reposting. Here’s a new photo so the photo bots don’t take it down so quickly.

[Facebook | Twitter]

***5th Update 6.12.2014 12:01am**

My Facebook page was just unpublished a few minutes ago for containing nudity, though I’m not sure what they’re considering nudity. My personal breastfeeding photos met the guidelines. Perhaps it was a breastfeeding photo in the comments under one of my many posts lately that other ladies posted that got my page flagged. I just don’t know.

Anyway, here was the screen shot of what I just saw.

We’ll see what happens with my appeal. Do you see that last little line about being deleted permanently if my appeal is denied?!

**6th Update 6.12.2014 @ 6:29am**

So! Quick recap. My page was unpublished last night at 12am, and I was threatened with complete page deletion. I was pissed. I went to bed at 2am, still pissed. By 4am, I noticed it was back up when I woke up for a feed. Yay! By 6am, I noticed an apology in my inbox – see screen shot – and thought, “Great! Maybe I’ll stop being harassed and having my shit taken down and being attacked by trolls now.”

But then when I hopped on the computer to share the news, FB had me log in again (which only happens when they have bad news for me) to tell me my 3rd repost of my original breastfeeding photo above is considered nudity.

But wasn’t it just 24 hours ago that it was deemed okay? And they apologized today for taking it down? And they just put back up, just as it was – See online here. And my 2nd repost was reinstated as well. Just not my third. Follow your own rules, Facebook. #FreeTheNipple

Apology email:

[Facebook's apology for removing breastfeeding photo.]

My original post was reinstated. Screen shot:


My thoughts on all this fuss and back and forth?

I don’t even know what to say about all of it. It’s very stressful to think years of hard work is going to be deleted all of a sudden because Facebook can’t get everyone to follow their own policy change and are letting bullies win. But now that it’s back, I’m feeling much better. Is it the last take down, no, because my 3rd repost of it was just taken down this morning. But my 1st and 2nd shares of it are reinstated with an apology. It’s almost comical.

**6th Update 6.13.2014 @8:29am**

I was loggged out of Facebook again this morning so I knew something was going to be flagged for removal again. This is what I was shown: A photo of myself and my sleeping children had been reported and removed for nudity. Really. REALLY. What if these had be boys instead of girls?

Okay, fine I thought. I’ll give you this one, Facebook. You can take down my children, even though this isn’t nudity or in any way obscene. You’re an asshole but sure. Whatever. Then I clicked continue and saw this:

So this warning came up yesterday. I reviewed all the photos on my timeline and selected two of my children where you could see some skin (but they were not nudity in my opinion, no nipples or anything) and removed them myself. Then Facebook let me go about my business without any problems. However, this morning they prompted me to review and delete more photos. I saw nothing to delete so I clicked continue. Then I saw this:

Great. Grand. Wonderful. Then I was allowed to continue on to my account. I tried to like a friend’s posting of their daughter having fun at a farm and saw this:

So that’s it for my update really. I’m blocked from liking or commenting on anything for a day. Why? What was in my timeline that was nudity? Everyone had clothes on. There was a carton of eggs where you could see the eggs. Did someone think those were breasts?? I’ve see that happen before – people getting banned for eggs. It’s madness. Who knows. I’m pretty upset about it though. I cannot manage my own personal page or page because trolls were hunting around and reporting things, whatever they feel like. It’s BS.

So I sent them a message telling them they blocked me in error. We’ll see if they fix their block.

**Update 6.18.2014 10:07am**

My block above went away after 24 hours. But now, Wednesday morning, I received a notice that my page was unpublished. There was warning or explanation to accompany it. See my screen shot – the top note is all I can see. There were no other notes or comments from Facebook about it. Facebook still has some work to do.

What can I do about it? I sent a “feedback about pages” message to FB about it using their form. See screen shot.

It says they do not respond to every report. Great. Then I received this note after pressing submit. It says I should receive an email.

Okay, an email would be nice. Then when I tried to share the news on my FB vs Breastfeeding Alliance page and tag, I received this pop up from Facebook.

So, that’s where I am right now. My page isn’t viewable by anyone except for me and the trolls think they’ve won. Again.

**Update 6.18.2014 11:24am**

I logged into my second Facebook account to see if I’d received any notices on that account and yes, I did. This is what I saw when I logged in – a note saying my photo (on my personal account) was reported but left up because it doesn’t violate standards.

This was the photo:

This photo was featured in international parenting magazines. I should hope Facebook agrees that it doesn’t violate community standards.

And a second notice that my page was reported and to remove content. Nothing about what the offensive content was though.

Then it took to my page where it still said “unpublished” at the top.

I heard from a reader this morning, Brandy from Latch the Babes, who reported my photo to see if Facebook would stick by their new policy a while back. She said she was notified a while back that it wasn’t nudity and Facebook was leaving it up. Well, this morning she got a notice from Facebook saying they reviewed my photo a 2nd time and they’ve taken it down. She sent me photos of what she saw this morning:

She clicked on the notification from Facebook and saw this:

So my photo was removed for nudity even though it is acceptable and meets the community standards. What about all of those other notices up there next to mine? Brandy said she reported many other photos for over the top blood and gore and they were all left up. Mine, a photo of a breastfeeding mother and child, bonding skin to skin, removed.

This is not right.

**Update 6.18.2014 @ 3:10pm**

My page is back up. I received an email and Facebook notice saying they reviewed my appeal and decided to reinstate me. That’s good news.

These are the messages I saw:

Facebook -

Gmail -

And Brandy sent me a screen shot of what she saw after I came back up, that my photo was restored.

Will this be the last time I have to deal with defending myself against trolls trying to take me down? Unlikely. But I will keep coming back. Mothers will not be bullied. We are allowed to share our moments without shame. I will keep on fighting to keep my page up, to share what I feel is important, to be a part of the global community, to help mothers across the world.

**Update 6.20.2014 @ 10:30PM**

My page was unpublished about 16 hours ago and brought back up after I submitted an appeal. Tonight, a bit over an hour ago, it was taken down again without warning or reason. I’m waiting for it to come back up.

Screen shot:

**Update 6.25.2014 @ 11:45PM**

My Facebook page was blacked out, unpublished for 5 whole days. I received this notice in my email and my page was published again, allowed to be public. No other explanations were given. No apology. Nothing.

[My latest email from Facebook, my page was published again after a 5 day banishment.]

I feel like I should have written a blog post while I was feeling all mad and lonely, kicked out of Facebook without my support, my friends. I was sick though, still am actually, and have hardly cracked open my laptop for 5 days. I got a really sudden, severe case of vertigo that is just now easing up. Has anyone else gotten that postpartum? Or did I just do something funny to mess up my ears or something.

All I know is that I’ve been stuck in bed most days and have not been able to share, laugh, and cry with you and I’ve felt lonely. It’s not right. There is only so much my hubby can listen to during his few awake hours before going to work all day or sleeping and I have no parents to vent to either. I am an orphan. And Facebook took away my online community. You can’t call your mama friends at 2am during a night nursing session to just talk. That’s what this page is for.

Anyway, my babies are all sleeping now and I’m happy to be back.

Want to share your story?

Use the hashtag #facebookSHU if you’ve been blacked out, blocked, deleted, unpublished, or otherwise isolated from your online community for being a woman.

My offense? None. All I did was follow Facebook’s new policy – allowing nipple exposure during breastfeeding. It brought trolls on here that started flagging and reporting everything in sight to try to take me down.

Stop siding with bullies, Facebook. Women will not be censored for merely having female nipples. For feeding our babies. We are equal. Men can be bare chested in public and online without being sexualized. So can we. Women should be “allowed” to bond skin to skin with their babies without being told they’re “looking for attention.” Without censorship.



Most of the media around the world is sharing the news of this Facebook policy update. That’s great, right? It appears most of the articles are taking phrases from this post without asking. I guess that’s fine. Sara Nelson of HuffPo UK did ask though. She shared this story right after HuffPo did with my thoughts and photo.

More of my related Facebook censorship, breastfeeding, and top freedom posts:

And here a few good old breastfeeding photos to share. Look how normal breastfeeding used to be, how no one batted an eye and our human skin wasn’t treated with such disdain.

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The Badass Breastfeeder’s First Tandem Breastfeeding Photo Censored by Facebook

The woman behind The Badass Breastfeeder, Abby Theuring, reported today that she had her first tandem breastfeeding photo censored by Facebook. Abby birthed her second child just a few days ago and wanted to share a tender first with all of her friends, family, and followers. Instead of seeing the supportive comments and hundreds of likes, this is what she saw yesterday when she logged on:

Her photo was up for less than a day before it was removed.

She shared her reaction on Facebook this morning, “So Facebook removed my beautiful first tandem breastfeeding photo and then someone left a nasty comment under it on Instagram (that place where everyone is reportedly positive). Thank you world for lighting the Badass Breastfeeding fire so quickly. That healed quicker than my perineum!”

What was the reason Facebook gave for the deletion? Nudity. This was her screen shot of their explanation for publicly shaming her:

But wait. I don’t see any nudity in the photo, do you? Her two children are actively breastfeeding. No one is flashing any genitals. I am confused.

As a tandem (triandem now, actually) breastfeeding mother myself who often shares my own photos to help normalize breastfeeding, I am appalled.

It shouldn’t really matter that this mother has a huge following and is a bit more high profile than the average mom, but it certainly makes the issue apparent instantly. According to the terms and conditions of Facebook, mothers are welcome to share their lives and breastfeeding photos on Facebook but time and time again, they are treated differently. Censored. Shamed. Told that “someone” reported them. Who? And why do the trolls win when people who have never actually posted pornographic content get flagged? Why do they repeatedly keep taking down pages and groups and photos?

How can Facebook stop this from happening and keep their word?

Join the conversation on Facebook or comment below!

**UPDATE 6.10.2014**

Facebook told us Abby’s photo has been restored. But when you look for it, it’s not there. So, what’s the deal?

**2nd UPDATE 6.16.2014**

The photo has been restored! Go give her page some love.


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Facebook Slashes Breastfeeding Support Pages Again, Leaving 50K mothers without support

I am about to dash out the door but I wanted to report quickly that Facebook unpublished two major breastfeeding pages today, Breastfeeding USA and Mama’s Milkies. Breastfeeding USA was deleted for sharing Scout Willis article about #freethenipple.

Here is a screen shot of what Breastfeeding USA page admins saw this morning:

I am shocked. Breastfeeding USA is a major organization and I personally received help with my breastfeeding issues from them earlier this year after my third child was born. I cannot believe Facebook would delete them!

And this was what the admins of the private group of Mama’s Milkies saw and reposted on their public page this morning:

Patty Jacobs of Breastfeeding USA responded this morning, “Breastfeeding USA is working on getting our page returned and back in action. We need everyone’s support during this outrageous and exasperating time.”

How can you help?

[Facebook Unpublished Breastfeeding USA today. Tweet.]

Facebook breastfeeding censorship knows no bounds! How does this page deletion make you feel?

Join the conversation on Facebook or comment below?

**UPDATE 6.7.2014 **

Breastfeeding USA was brought back up after an apology from Facebook.

**2nd UPDATE**

“Nursing in Public is here to stay, Your rudeness wont make it go away” reported that their page was unpublished without notice yesterday, June 8th. Over 12K parents and supporters follow that page. Page admins appealed the takedown and have started a new page, “Bring Back Nursing in Public is Here to Stay.”

This is their page. Does it look offensive to you?

**3rd UPDATE 6.10.2014**

Mama’s Milkies Private has been restored. 

Advocate Jodine Chase of Human Milk News & Jodine’s World responded to this update this afternoon.

“I’m really impressed, we haven’t ever had this level of responsiveness from FB before, although I know people from within have tried. I anticipate more breastfeeding image sharing as the word gets out, (and more trolling, and more human error removals.) but in all I think we’re turning a corner!”


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Facebook deletes yet another breastfeeding support group and suspends another page for posting acceptable photos, Nurse-in planned in Australia

Apparently Facebook has been extra naughty this year, pissing off New Zealand, Australian, and American mothers with censorship, group deletions, and page banning this month alone. The social networking service has hit the headlines in New Zealand for deleting another support group for nursing mothers, Mummy Matters group. Multiple mothers of the 3,500 member strong group were also suspended for sharing breastfeeding photos. According to the Otago Daily News, a member of the Mummy Matters group, Renee Lyons, posted on Friday that her breastfeeding picture was removed, her account suspended and she was reported for having a scam or fake profile. This follows the deletion of another entire breastfeeding support group of 5,000+ members in October of this year. Facebook denies censorship of photos on the Mummy Matters group.

Mothers in Australia are also feeling the discrimination. A nurse-in is scheduled for next month after a mother was censored from Facebook in South Burnett. Breastfeeding supporters plan to meet at Kingaroy Shoppingworld on January 5th to support the mother, Stacey Turcan, who had her breastfeeding photos removed from her Facebook page. Those that cannot attend will be changing their profile photos to nursing photos in an international virtual nurse-in.

In America, Abby, known as the Badass Breastfeeder, received a 30-day ban for sharing this poster on Facebook.


Why? Breastfeeding photos are supposed to be welcomed. This poster doesn’t violate their terms at all, which state only a fully-exposed breast where the child is not actively nursing violates their terms.

This was the notice she received:

Interesting that on the main Community Standards page, Facebook states this:

“Facebook has a strict policy against the sharing of pornographic content and any explicitly sexual content where a minor is involved. We also impose limitations on the display of nudity. We aspire to respect people’s right to share content of personal importance, whether those are photos of a sculpture like Michelangelo’s David or family photos of a child breastfeeding.

When is enough enough? What about this poster violates Facebook’s terms? Can you figure it out?

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The Facebook hypocrisy continues: Breastfeeding Images and Page Admins Banned

This just in: Facebook is continuing to unabashedly and unapologetically delete more breastfeeding photos in addition to banning breastfeeding appreciation and support page admins for sharing perfectly acceptable images.

Beautiful Breastfeeding reported on the discrimination today on Facebook.

“I thought I should let you know what’s happening behind the scenes at Beautiful Breastfeeding. A few days ago a nasty guy took a dislike to our photos and decided to band together with his friends on a reporting rampage. Consequently 4 of our photos were removed and a few of the admins here were banned for 30 days. We’ve emailed FB but haven’t received a reply. I’ll be putting together a letter to send to media sites, and anyone willing to repost the story. – Cherie”

What images were banned? These ones.

Do you see any nipple flashing without a baby feeding? Nope? Me neither.

Why would Facebook side with trolls over their own community standards and breastfeeding photo policy?

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Breastfeeding Banished from Facebook Again

Isn’t this a lovely moment of motherhood to capture and share with the world? I most certainly think so. I absolutely love seeing beautiful breastfeeding portraits like this and sharing my own. I spend my days and sleepless nights with a baby at the breast, reading about other mothers and their experiences raising their children, some of them tandem nursing just like me and the mother in the photo above. Breastfeeding is one of the most basic parts of raising a human that should be remembered and appreciated, a part that we should all be proud of. But apparently, this snapshot of a mother nurturing her children was too much for Facebook and they have deemed it unacceptable.

What happened?

I shared this photograph, a tandem nursing portrait by Belle Verdiglione Photography, a little earlier this evening on my blog’s Facebook page after I found it on Birth Without Fear’s Facebook page. Later on in the evening when I checked my wall, I found that the photo was deleted from my page and from Birth Without Fear’s page and everyone who had shared it. Why? Because Facebook banned it.

BWF just posted this comment on the deletion, “Oh FB, removing a nursing photo and blocking someone for 24 hours for sharing said nursing photo, kinda violates your own policy. I thought we had come so far….very disappointed.”

What is Facebook’s policy on breastfeeding photos? This is word for word their policy:

Does Facebook allow photos of mothers breastfeeding? Yes. We agree that breastfeeding is natural and beautiful, and we’re very glad to know that it is important for mothers to share their experiences with others on Facebook.found online here

Is deleting another breastfeeding portrait really a big deal? Actually yes, yes it is. Just as the bullies who harass mothers and children who are breastfeeding in public are breaking the law and common decency, Facebook is bullying mothers online by sending the message that these images are obscene. Facebook is in charge of making sure errors like this, deletion of images they say are specifically allowed, don’t keep happening, ensuring that women are not degraded for sharing breastfeeding portraits and prohibited from participating in critical parenting and breastfeeding support systems online. But incidents like this keep on happening. Mothers and support pages, even the New Yorker magazine, are told they are breaking community standards and are kicked off for days, weeks, months, and threatened with permanent deletion over images like this, images Facebook says they support.

When will Facebook fix their broken censoring system? When will the shaming of breastfeeding mothers stop?



There was an international virtual nurse-in to support breastfeeding mothers who have had their pages banned and photos deleted, like Belle Verdiglione Photography and Birth Without Fear, on Tuesday, January 22nd, 2013. Thousands of mothers and supporters participated. See the Facebook photo nurse-in event page for details. This event was held at just about a year past the big in person nurse-in at Facebook’s Headquarters and around the world in 2012.

Miriam MacMillan was banned from Facebook for 24 hours for sharing a breastfeeding picture on her BREASTFEEDING PAGE, RefreshMe, during this nurse-in. Here is her screen shot.

Do you see anything breaking community standards here? Absolutely not!

Here is RefreshMe’s reply to Facebook after the ban:

Dear Facebook, today we will be testing you on your policy with our new “Facebook Friendly” picture. Your policy says that if a nipple is showing but a child is actively nursing that its OK with facebook- you welcome these beautiful photos. So although we don’t agree with you ( we believe Nipples do not = Rude/Sexy we believe breasts (including nipples) = functional part of a woman’s body- in fact from our entire photo shoot this was the ONLY picture we got where everyone’s nipples were covered or their baby/toddler wasn’t looking around for a split second- but hey they are kids these things happen ALOT!!) We would love it if you would change your policy to include breasts in the context of breastfeeding but for the moment will just be happy if you follow YOUR OWN RULES. Mirrie is still banned but she made this picture for our members to SHARE and show their awesome support.

These mamas are all local and members of this page- we think they are *wonderful* – Don’t you? :)

Sincerely, RefreshMe x

Then, ALL ABOUT AMBER was been banned from Facebook for 3 days, the third time she has been banned for 3-5 days, all for sharing this Spikey Hedgehog Photography portrait.

Again, this image is perfectly acceptable, gorgeous even, and doesn’t break any rules on Facebook. The mother, an editor for Nurture ~ Natural Parenting Magazine, comments, “Do you see the beauty of the picture or do you see the sexualisation of the breast? To me, that photo shows only love. My boy feeding and gently holding my hand. I can’t see why it would upset you – there is less skin showing than a picture of a female in bikini down at the beach …”

And I had my first breastfeeding photo deletion this month too. A photo of a mama nursing her twins in a position recommended to relieve mastitis was banned from my page on January 27th, 2013.

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